The Graduates...

I was driving home from Castle Rock today and thinking about a graduation party I would later be attending. It was fun to think about the graduate: excited that she's finally finished with high school, about to embark on a life that she is more able to call Her Own, ready to do Something... and I started wishing I could recapture those feelings I had when I graduated from high school. Those anticipations are exciting, but I think we've all found ourselves getting bogged down in the 'exciting life' we've created for ourselves post-graduation. This got me thinking: Why can't I feel like that more often? What's stopping me? If I've learned anything over this last year, and good Lord I hope that I have, it's that we 'graduate' from life's experiences all the time. We made it through a tough project at work...graduation. We resolve an argument with a loved one...graduation. We keep our cool when we really want to lose it...graduation. When I make it through something like this, I would like to feel grateful that I made it through, a little wiser for it, and more prepared for what comes next. In other words, I would like to feel like a graduate. I want to have a little party in my mind, say "Good job, Julie!" and eat a cupcake in honor of myself. But this is not my gut reaction. My gut reaction is to be frustrated at the situation, worried that I didn't do well enough, and anxious that it will happen again. This makes me think about what I've been learning lately about the power of Intentional Thinking; that is, realizing that our thoughts do not control us, we control them. It sounds so simple, but I think this is my biggest obstacle in this area. Intentional thinking can stop us from reverting to what feels instinctual and teach us to replace it with something else. It can teach us to say "Yay!" instead of "Ugh..." and to pat ourselves on the back instead of slapping ourselves on the wrist. It's not easy, of course, and it's not quick (if it were, believe me, I would be an expert - I am AWESOME at things that are easy and quick!), but it has the potential to save me from boatloads of anxiety (Yes. My anxiety is such that it is most accurately measure in boatloads). It has the potential to make me feel excited not only about what I have already accomplished, but about the new things I will now be able to accomplish as a result. Just the thought of feeling that I've surmounted something instead of it surmounting me is enough to motivate me. So this is my goal: to hear Pomp and Circumstance each time I walk away from a challenge!

Please excuse me while I go work on changing my perspective...and get myself a cupcake : )